Stop Asking “How Do I Look?” and Start Showing Up for Yourself

Somewhere between school drop-offs, back-to-back Zoom calls, or running a household like a Fortune 500 company, you lost something.

Not your keys (though let’s be honest, those might go missing daily).

You lost you.

And your closet shows it.

When clients come to me for style transformation, they’re usually burned out—not just with their wardrobe, but with life. They think a fresh look will bring back their spark, like a magic wand that erases exhaustion and reignites their clarity and passion for life.

But the problem is never just about clothes.

It’s About Your Power.

Burnout doesn’t start with what’s in your closet.

It starts the moment you hand over your power to other people’s expectations. And most women do this in the one question you ask yourself every morning.

Think about it: what do you ask yourself when you get dressed? For most of my clients, it’s, "How do I look?"

Seems harmless, right? But that question isn’t just about style. It’s about validation. 

When you ask yourself, “How do I look?” you’re playing by an unspoken rule book that tells you how you should look, act, and exist to make everyone else comfortable.

"How do I look?" turns into “What will they think?”

And just like that, you start dressing for approval. You start living for external validation instead of internal confidence. 

You start editing yourself—your voice, your wardrobe, your presence—because you’re too busy trying to please others instead of owning how you want to show up.

No wonder you feel exhausted.

This Is Where Personal Branding Comes In.

Your personal brand isn’t about curating an image. It’s not about dressing the part, playing the role, or shaping yourself into what the world expects.

It’s about knowing who you are—and showing up like you mean it.

It's not about doing business. It's about how you show up for the business of life.

That is the real source of your IT factor. It’s the foundation of your Signature Soul Style™.

And it has nothing to do with anyone else thinks.

So instead of asking, “How do I look?” start asking, “How do I want to show up?”

And Start Showing Up—On Your Terms.

You can show up kind. You can show up bold. You can show up fierce.

And you can do it all without caring about what other people think.

Real style—real presence—comes from knowing who you are. Not from trends, other people’s approval, or the imaginary gold stars of “getting it right.”

It's time to stop playing dress-up for a world that doesn’t get to define us.

It’s time to show up. For yourself. For your life. For the woman you’re ready to reclaim.

And if you’re done waiting for permission to step into that power, Your Real Life Fairy

Godmother™ can help you get there.